2022.01.19 23:11 NoIdeaWhatToD0 "If it means anything, I haven't eaten anything today yet either" - my boss
Oh dear antiwork, how I've wanted to post to you so badly. I feel like I don't have it as bad as a lot of you and I'm pretty much going through the same thing as everyone else, I'm not saying anything new but damn when my boss said what he did today, it just inspired me to write.
For some background information, I work for a multi-billion dollar enterprise that merged with our original company, but of course they're still only paying us $20 an hour ($22 now after asking my boss for a raise) and it's been hard for us to keep up with the work because they added 9 stores to our books and so we're reconciling accounts for 10 companies in one basically. The only thing keeping me from losing my mind is that we get to work from home although my boss might be taking too much advantage of that...
We're a team of 4 which unevenly splits our work and 2 of my coworkers already quit last year, one during the summer and the other one just 2 weeks ago. I've been trying to look for another job too but lately it's just been too much for me. I feel like I barely have enough time to look for anything because of all the work we have to do. Just last week we had to work over 17 and a half hours of overtime including working on Saturday because of how short-staffed we are and all the fires we've had to put out because of journal entries not getting booked correctly from either our team or another department and we're also down a person while we're still training a new girl who is taking over the first coworker's position.
Today kind of crossed a line because I clocked out and my boss urgently messaged me to come back online so I can book a journal entry for him, I don't know why he couldn't just do it himself. I was having dinner until he called me and so for some reason, I felt obliged to help him because apparently he's been trying to get it in all day and he couldn't get it done so I had to step in since no one else was available and I felt bad. I didn't think it would take that long until there was a technical issue that took an hour to fix and I had to reupload it again. While I was waiting, I got pissed even though he kept apologizing saying that it wasn't my fault and I told him to text me once the tech issues were resolved and that I was going to finish dinner in the meantime and so I left, he did end up texting me when it was okay to reupload and when I got back, he apparently messaged me to keep hanging on and that "if it means anything, I haven't eaten anything yet today either."
He has brought this up a lot lately when we've had to work overtime such as telling us that we can take a "dinner break" if we need to but I mean, that's ridiculous, of course we need to eat. I'm getting so sick of working overtime for him, I understand that things are tough right now but I don't believe that we're ever going to find a good replacement (for coworker #2 who left) with the pay that they're giving us and of course my boss gave me the old "oH tHeY'LL wAnT tO wOrK fOr ThE eXpOsUrE" BS.
I don't know what to do but I feel bad for saying no because this is also my first real job and I'm scared to get fired (at-will company) especially since I'm now trying to find another job and I'm having a hard time getting even an interview with anyone. I've rewritten my resume several times and worked with multiple people on it.
TL:DR : Honestly I don't even know how to summarize this, I'm tired. Lol.
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2022.01.19 23:11 MostlyPeacfulPndemic False/double peaks when im supposed to do cyclical progesterone
I'm supposed to take my progesterone from peak+3 until peak+12.
I peaked 3 days ago but I don't think it was real (it was 10C, no K or L, with none of the intense abdominal pain that usually accompanied my ovulation.) no way to find out if it was my real peak or not, unless I observe another peak, which wont happen if I take the progesterone. And if I don't take the progesterone, I may miscarry (if I conceived) or my ovarian hormonal cycles will get jacked up and may impact my next cycle (i have pcos).
Im so angry. I have no idea what to do.
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The year was 2013,
I used to play a JRPG game with a friend of mine. All the basic stuff that you would expect with the genre. It was on its ninth iteration, or so and started with an X Or Z.
I'm new to android again, I just got my Pixel 6 and wanted to relive a little memory. Please let me know if there's a better resource.
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2022.01.19 23:11 At0mictruth What is wrong not with me? Difficulty Moving on after changing companies
About 3 months ago I moved to a new company after feeling undervalued and under compensated at a place I had been for over a decade (first job after graduating). I feel like I signaled for a year I was frustrated and nothing changed. I got an awesome role that I think long run will open more doors and a increase in compensation that was overdue in my old role.
I really enjoy this new role and am happy during the day. It’s a step up to he ladder, I feel like I have more ability to drive changes, and run a great team. But when work stops I get this weight on my chest worried I made the wrong choice. I think things like in 6 months I might have gotten the position I now have or that I walked away from better benefits.
I work in a small industry so I hear and see lots from my old company and just miss it. The new company works very similar, has a similar culture (maybe one more rewarding of performance actually). The only real Difference is I am largely virtual and remote since December when Omnicron appeared. When things calm down I’ll be in office a few days a week (something I like). I left a project that I am proud of a little earlier than planned so as it is reaching some public milestones I am proud that I got it there and sad to not be part of that.
What is wrong with me. Why am I missing the old place that left me banging my head in the wall and burnt out for years. My wife says I seem happier and I think I am with work. But this sadness and worry is hard to let go of still. I felt like I had to leave for growth and opportunity and that I felt as forced out when I wish they would have just listened and treated me right.
Have others felt this way after moving companies? how long did it last? I left on good terms and debate if I should go back and talk to the big boss and signal an interest in returning. Or is this just me scared from learning a new company culture and rebuilding my internal network.
Thanks to anyone willing to share any similar transition turmoil. I am feeling lost.
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2022.01.19 23:11 RocketElbow Anger And Advice
Good evening everyone,
This all just happened just as I left work today. Emotions are high, and I apologize for any spell errors, or moments of just making sense. This is going to be long, and rambly. I'm sorry for using this place to vent. There's a lot of exposition, but I promise, I'm going somewhere with this. Also, trigger warning, I'm probably going to mentions some disturbing content.
I'm not an angry person, I don't lash out, I'm good at containing those outwardly negative emotions until I have the time and place to work them out. I have to be like this for my job. I'm a clinician (LCSW) at a community health center, specializing in substance use and mental health. Specifically, my people are almost all dual diagnosis, meaning they have comorbid substance use disorders, and mental health disorders. Heroin and PTSD, Alcohol and Bipolar I, Schizophrenia and Cocaine/Crack, and every combination you could imagine. These are individuals who are too severely impaired or too much a risk to themselves/others to go to that sterotypical one-on-one therapist, and instead, need 3 to 4 hours of intense group therapy 5 days a week (PHP/IOP level of care) to stabilize before moving on to our weekly, and eventually monthly, maintenance(OP) groups. The work is challenging, a caseload of ~100 of the state's most ill and in-need people referred to us, with the expectation we will get them all on their feet. I wish it was that easy. The Clients are, again, are almost all on state insurance. It covers just about everything, but the expectations on us as care providers are intense, as they do want to see returns in their investments.
I've never lost anyone, not to suicide, or overdose, or even CoVid, but there have been a LOT of late nights talking people back from the edge. That's not even talking about the paperwork, an hour of therapy is 30 minutes of documentation for records and billing. There have been weeks I've done by 40 hours by noon Thursday, and as a salaried worker, I do not get overtime.
I started there as an intern, and got hired straight out of grad school. I'm Mexican/Chicano, and their Latino program needed staff. They had burned out one clinician after 5 months, another after 4 months, and they had to use a temp as a per diem to fill in until a permanent staff member came along. That temp, out of the goodness of her heart, worked for 2 years, without benefits. I was good at what I did, I was bilingual/bicultural, and I was happy to join. They were never going to let me walk out. And honestly? I wanted to stay. I made so many friends with the staff, I run the unofficial agency DnD game, I'm in multiple group chats with staff, we go out for dinner and drinks, it was great working with friends you connected with so instantly. We took a 4 hour road trip just to go to the vegan Mexican place one of my friends liked for her birthday. My supervisor was great, the learning was great, I thought I couldn't do any better. I just got my LMSW right after graduating, and I thought this could be a great place to get my required 3000 hours of work and 100 hours of supervision to qualify for my LCSW exam. If I passed that, I was promised benefits, a significant raise in pay, and faster PTO accrual. I felt like a king. I onboarded in May of 2019.
Then the world ended.
CoVid hit less than a year into my career. It was chaos, nobody knew what to do. How do we have group therapy when we can't be in groups? How do we document and bill when the state insurance our people have doesn't cover remote services? There were a few months when I had to call my entire caseload, one by one, to do individual therapy, because that was covered. State told us to figure it out, even if it reduced quality and quantity of care, as long as it didn't cost more. Individual Zoom therapy? I sleep. Group Zoom therapy? I WAKE. There were days I got in at 8am and didn't finish my paperwork until 8pm. This went on for 2.5 months until insurance decided to cover Zoom groups.
My coworkers are still supportive, but administration became dismissive. We were hemorrhaging money because our Clients stopped coming in. My direct supervisor works from home 3 days of the week, gets a day of PTO every 7 work days, and can approve her own time. She's validating of our struggles, but the bottom line is "get it done." Her validations are what she offers when she can't offer solutions. I can't tell you how many times I've been volun-told to do more work, take an extra intake assessment, revisit treatment plans, do state evals that do NOT help my people, but it's data that state likes to see. I had a Client miscarry for the second time, call me in a full blown mental breakdown, and when I was not able to immediately respond to my supervisor, she asked me to tell my Client "make an appointment for later and transfer to crisis, you need to do an intake."
My people are genuinely good people in bad situations, doing what they can to get better and heal. The issues they have are systemic and personal. Refugees, sexual assault survivors, veterans, people struggling with substance abuse or self-harm. I sincerely believe the cure for depression and addiction is connection. Humans are social creatures, we live to be heard and to listen. The human connection, my ability to empathize and resonant with my people is the single strongest tool in my kit. Now I had to segment people in hardline 15-minute spots, over the phone, without visuals. If someone tells me the used that morning and feel sick, I can call a medical code and they can assess and call 911 if needed, every doctor or nurse in the building shows up. If they're feeling suicidal, I can call our crisis department and get a mobile intervention for an assessment. I don't have any of those tools over the phone. I had a suicidal client "in a park", refusing to give me more details, and when I called 911 to report, they told me there was "not a lot that we can do" without a concrete address, other than an alert to their patrols. I had the fewest, weakest tools, right as my Clients, my people, needed me the most. Then we lost 3 of our 5 Spanish speaking clinicians as they burned out, and their Clients became my Clients. It's been two years. Not a single applicant for a Spanish position. The one we had for English rescinded his application after he was told what a typical caseload was. The remaining team is crumbling and looking to get out.
I went from monthly sessions with my own therapist sessions, to biweekly, to weekly. I'm testing positive on PTSD screeners. I'm snapping at my girlfriend, I'm isolating and drinking, I'm crying or yelling before I even realize, I'm loosing compassion for my Clients. I've been spit on by my clients, threatened physically and sexually, yelled at for minutes on end by them. I get it, they're ill, I get it. But that explains, it doesn't excuse it, it doesn't make me hurt any less. I wake up some nights in a cold sweat, panicking I forgot something or failed something, and I lost someone because of that. The pressure of worrying if someone has died because of me is breaking me. It's been 2 years of this.
Financially things have been tough. About 50% of my budget goes to rent, the rest to bills, and I have maybe $150 a month for spending on little things, taking my girlfriend out, sending a little to help my immigrant mother after she broke herself and destroyed her credit to give me that shot at "The American Dream." If I had to pay my student loans on top of that, I'd be unable to cover my bills. I'm able to pay my bills at the moment, but I can't do anything else. I've never had more that $2000 in savings, despite 8 years of schooling, $130,000 in student debt, and earning at the upper level for someone with my incomplete license, the LMSW, not the LCSW. When my credit cards got bad and I had to increase my monthly paymenys, I had a whole $9 to play with in October, and $17 in November. What kept me going was the hope of all those promise things would get better after passing my exam, getting a raise, and being able to live, not survive. My girlfriend passed her LCSW in October, and got a job making $70.5k. I'm so proud of her, we cried together when she got her offer letter.
I passed my exam 2 weeks ago, I got my full liscensure. And an offer for $60k. A 7% raise. For context, I was verbally told $70k, "at least 20%" which is the same the rest of the LCSWs on the team get. Our most recent clinician to leave got $68k as an LMSW at her new job, an incomplete license, and holidays off and faster PTO accrual. As an LMSW.
I'm not writing all this to fellate myself, I recognize I'm extremely privileged and I need to check that, but because this place has destroyed my own mental health, strangled my love for people that got me into this field to begin with, and then had the audacity to turn around and give me an offer my coworkers called "insulting, because you're the one keeping an entire program running."
I'm going to decline the offer, and keep working there until I find something better. I've flirted with the idea for months, but after today, and finally passing my exam, I have the means and the motivation to do it. It's extremely hard to find a good job in this field with only an LMSW. I've had 6 hits since updating my Indeed profile yesterday. I know what I'm worth, my girlfriend, my coworkers, area agencies, they all know what I'm worth, all except my current employer. I'm the last Spanish speaking clinician for our Latino IOP. If I go, that program goes with me, the other Spanish speaking clinician is on record refusing to take on any more work on. I do 17 groups per week, including my Latino IOP. At my prime, I was making the agency $72,000 a month in IOP billing alone, before my other OP groups. I'm going to refer my people out or gently transfer them to any other clinicians willing to take them on.
I hate myself for choosing to leave, I feel like I'm abandoning my people, but I keep looking at the train tracks down the road from me like they're appealing, and if I stay, I'll forever burn out. Or worse. I'm sorry, but I hate my workplace more than I love what I do, and that is not ok.
Getting back to the title of this post, does anyone have advice on what to do next? Am I making a mistake by declining that offer? Is it dumb to keep working there like nothing happened? It feels like a good plan, but I'm so full of emotions, I can't tell what's the right call. What should I do? What did I do wrong? How do I fix it? How do I become better?
Thank you for your time. Be well, and be safe.
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2022.01.19 23:11 Background_Level_889 I’m looking for a book about djinn, jinn or genies.
So I grew up Christian not Muslim, nor have I’ve had any exposure in backgrounds that involved genies religiously or culturally.
However I’ve always been interested in stories about genies. Technically I’m looking for some non fiction books about genies, most of the books I can find on them or limited. Either they are from a person with no background like myself for all I know they could be making stuff up or have stereotypes play a factor in what I’m reading. Or they are like How to control a genie in five simple steps! Or using jinn magic. I don’t know if these are conspiracy books or cash grabs or to what respect. So a book that might mention their background, and how they might be presented in the Muslim text, religion and culture and where did these creatures originate and how are they? Or just any culture that has them?
I don’t mind fictional stories either, but like I’ve already stated these could be stories that are almost fetishized of certain cultures, or written from a different curtal perspective and due to my own background I can’t tell the difference between which one would be more accurate and more stereotypical.
I’m sorry if I seem vague, I may not know how to phrase the question.
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2022.01.19 23:11 Internet_Kid99 Nothing crazy but I thought this strip was photogenic enough
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2022.01.19 23:11 sumonespecal For people that think aliens are good for us.
Exactly why would you think that and what have you researched that make you believe they are good for us?
To me, according abduction experiences, whether true or not, aliens don't have a peaceful reputation. When good experiences happen it seems they are implanting false memories through neurological engaging.
Although whether they are good or bad, I do think it's pretty cool that there might actually be intelligent life out there apart from us, whether they are aliens, demons or fallen/ angels.
A few facts from abductions: Almost no one has been killed apart from some cattle/ human mutilations or people dying from fear after an abduction from a heart attack or are mentally controlled in doing harm to themselves or others. Aliens seem to be wanting us to take good care of the planet, which would be considered a good thing. On second thought, they are also interbreeding and try to replace us and make the planet for their own. It's a stealthy invasion, would you accept that even though it's our own habitable planet? Impregnating you against your will, rape have been reported or physical abuse for not cooperating, mentally control you without you realizing. Yes we humans have some work to do but it's our nature our future, I'm against what they are doing, I'm just curious in how would you approve of something like this and at the same time say aliens are goo for us.
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2022.01.19 23:11 widmerpool_nz Train Reread - Chapter 3
Whereas the first two chapters were headed with a place and date, this one is titled 'Norah' and tells us the place is a boat in Newport Marina.
Norah is young and is unhappily married to Alec, a much older, rich man whose kink is watching her having sex with men her own age. This passage describes her well:
One way or another, men had been trying to protect or save her all hr life. She brought that out in them, even after she had stopped trying.One night, the ship is boarded by two robbers, who shoot and kill the captain first and then slit Alec's throat before raping her.
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2022.01.19 23:11 reluctantbunnyboy Recently I remembered when I was a kid I would play “safari” with my younger brother
I would take all my stuffed animals outside and hide them in bushes hand them from trees put them all around and then we’d get into his little jeep thing and I’d drive us around and narrate the animals like a safari driver.
My brother is 8 years younger than me so I never really had to many memories of us as kids but this made me smile
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